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Stories on Becoming and Unbecoming

Dear readers, stalkers, fans, beauty queens, and random person who accidentally ended up here after googling “hos long to die in cold” (iykyk) - welcome.

Ten years ago, I had a blog called Men Don’t Get Cold. I was twenty-something, just starting my marriage and family, working my first real job, and I was pretty pissed to find out that men do, in fact, get cold - even though my father assured me they did not every time he gave me his jacket when I was freezing in a restaurant.

At some point, I stopped writing. I had kids to protect, a job to take seriously, life got busier, and it’s hard to overshare when HR might be reading (and I’m also the HR in question). A decade later, I’m still learning the same lessons, just with better skincare and slightly higher stakes.

But the title always felt right - Men Don’t Get Cold was about the stories we absorb growing up (consciously or unconsciously) on how to behave, how to shrink, and how to survive - which adulthood then quickly and harshly requires you to unlearn in order to be sliving…or whatever Paris Hilton calls it these days.

Anyway, I missed having a place to say the quiet parts out loud.
So I’m here again — still becoming, still unbecoming.

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What You’ll Find Here:

• Unhinged Thoughts – a rotating mix of self-awareness, delusion, and confession.

• Annoyance Journal – like a gratitude journal, but saltier.

• Bye vs. Buy – emotional exits and impulsive purchases.

• Poems – short, chaotic, sometimes sincere.

• The Sunday Spiral - my weekly existential crisis.

This is a space to share my confessions, reflections, and recent obsessions. Sometimes it’ll be about life, family, work, relationships, aging, parenting, products I’m buying for “research purposes”, or the way I keep repeating the same patterns and calling it growth. Sometimes it will be me confusing skincare with emotional stability.

Whether you’re a fan from years ago or new to this blog, thank you for being here.

Now let’s gossip.